General Guidelines
The Senses
  Sight
  Hearing
  Smell and Breathing
  Touch
  Taste and Nutrition
Mind
Emotion
Spirit

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

General Guidelines

a.) Listen to your child.  If he / she tells you something is uncomfortable, or is worrying him or her listen listen listen.  You may get the solution right away and not even have to read this book.
b.) A regular bedtime the same time every night will make falling asleep much faster and easier.
c.) Your child should not do any form of vigorous exercise at least 2 hours before going to bed. The body needs time to  “wind down”.

d.) Quiet Playtime with soft music is good before bed.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Senses
 
Sight

a.) The room should be dark. Check the curtains and shades to make sure no light is getting in. All lights should be off. If the child is afraid of the dark, a small nightlight with an angel or friendly character on it may be used. The body needs darkness to sleep really deeply.  Light stimulates activity in the mind and body that hinders sleep.  Darkness invites sleep.
b.) If the room can’t be made dark a sleep mask may be worn.  Some children like them but If the child doesn’t like it, don’t insist.
c.) A warm wet washcloth over the eyes induces relaxation of the eyes and sleep. Some children find this soothing, but If the child doesn’t like it, don’t insist.
d.) Encourage the child to practice “seeing: with his/her eyes closed and to visualize and create whatever “movie” they want to make in their own mind.
e.) Sit with the child and ask them to “see” with their eyes closed, a giraffe, a bird, and a carrot, a car (make up anything that might be of interest to the child).
f.) An alternative to darkness is a blue light bulb of about 15 watts.  Just enough light to paint a blue glow in the room.
g.) Another alternative to darkness is a  “Star” machine” which projects stars on the ceiling.  They are available in many science stores.

h.) Glow in the dark star stickers to paste on the ceiling are good.  These make the child feel it is under the starry sky and helps it to fall asleep.

Hearing

a.) The room should be absolutely quiet. It is worthwhile to put soundproof tile on the ceiling and seal all places where noise can get through.  If it is impossible to eliminate all noise from the room, then use music and/or environmental sounds.
b.) Soft slow music such as Mozart’s Sleepytime Music Box or other soft classical or New Age Music will induce sleep.  If you use classical music make sure it doesn’t go from slow and soft to fast and loud.  Not all-classical music is good for sleep.
c.) A waterfall in the child’s room.  You can purchase small portable waterfalls or rock gardens with a pond that have a re-circulating pump and create the sound of live running water.  These are self-contained and the water is constantly in motion without needing any plumbing connections, because a pump re-circulates the water.
d.) An aquarium with fish in it that has the kind of filter that makes a small waterfall. Then you have the sound of water AND fish to look at.

e.)  Recordings of soft nature sounds such as water and crickets helps to induce sleep.

Smell & Breathing

In sleep the breathing is slow and deep with the belly rising and falling.  Try to help the child to breathe this way and sleep will soon follow. Things that help this are:
a.) Make sure the breathing passages are clear, so the child can breathe naturally through the nose.  Breathing through the mouth makes the throat dry and uncomfortable.
b.) If it’s winter and you have a heated home, a humidifier will keep the air natural and comfortable to breathe.
c.) There are aromas you can purchase in the form of aromatic oils or packs of dried plants such as sage, dried flowers etc.  Natural Pine needles are also good, oil fragrances that are good are eucalyptus and peppermint.  If you can let the child pick one out in the store that’s even better.
d.) Cleansers and chemicals.  Even those nice smelling ones can be VERY toxic.  Some researchers believe that these “cleansers” and “air sprays” weaken the entire body and immune system at least a little. Others believe they weaken the body a lot.  Over the years one can “mysteriously” not feel well and the doctors can find no reason.  The reason for this mysterious “not feeling well’ is years of pollution by household “cleansers” and air “fresheners” Your house can be just as clean with natural cleaners and the smell of fresh or dried flowers instead of sprays.
e.) Tobacco smoke; yes your child doesn’t smoke BUT if anyone in the house smokes near the child the child gets nicotine through the air. Nicotine is a POWERFUL stimulant to a small child and will prevent sleep every time.

f.) Don’t use anything artificial that has chemicals.  Most chemicals are slightly or very toxic.  Even though they don’t cause obvious symptoms, they are not natural to the body and create stress, which can prevent sleep.

Touch

a.) Comfort: Make certain the bed, pajamas, sheets, covers or anything that touches the child is comfortable. Anything hard or “itchy” should be replaced with something soft and snuggly.  Take the child shopping to pick out their own pajamas and blanket there is great psychological value in taking the child shopping to by his/ her own pajamas, sheets, blankets etc.
b.) Hug, and cuddle the child so he/she feels loved and secure.  Scientific studies have shown that If there is not enough tactile affection the child does not feel loved and feels stress, which inhibits sleep.  Let them feel loved and cared for by your touch.
c.) Massage the child to induce relaxation, which is the main factor in sleep.  Gentle massage relaxes and puts them to sleep.
d.) The acupressure point for sleep is on the inside of the wrist about 2 inches from where the hand meets the wrist on an adult.  Depending on the child’s’ size it will be less than 2 inches from the wrist.  You will know it because it is a “valley” and if you press there it goes deeper down than the surrounding area.  Just massage and gently press this point for a few minutes to induce sleep.
e.) Sesame Oil massaged into the soles of the feet with a gentle rubbing motion induces sleep quickly.  This is an Ayurvedic remedy from India.
f.) If they want a teddy bear or doll, let them have it, no matter what age.

g.) The room should be not too hot, or cold.
h.)  Rocking the child in your arms or in a cradle.  Kids love motion like this and it helps them to fall asleep.

Taste and Nutrition

a.) Herbal teas Chamomile Peppermint Spearmint or other herbal tea that has no caffeine is good for the child.  Don’t make it too hot as you would for an adult and don’t put in too much sugar.
b.) Medications including aspirin produce stress on the body and keep it from relaxing.  Don’t go against your doctor, but use as few drugs or medicines as possible.  These only suppress the symptoms and don’t cure anyway.  It’s hard to get a medicine without a side effect.  Often the side effect is counter to sleep.
c.) Vitamin C and Zinc and fresh fruits will cure a cold naturally.  Coughs and asthma are cured in many people by cutting out anything made with white flour and / or sugar.  Try these natural remedies first.
d.)  Caffeine:  Your child may not drink coffee or tea, BUT most carbonated beverages have caffeine which can keep the child from sleeping.  Don’t give them at least 4 hours before bedtime.  Better yet not at all.  Iced herbal teas taste better and are healthier.
e.) Sugar:  The health hazards of sugar for the teeth, body and mind, are becoming more and more known.  Sugar occurs naturally in fruits and in this form it is fine.  BUT refined sugar is VERY bad for the child.  It causes alternate mood swings of hyperactivity and depressed lethargy.  ALL refined sugar should be avoided!  It’s not easy to do because it’s in most breakfast cereals, cookies cakes ice cream and most packaged foods, but it’s well worth the effort for a healthier child both physically and emotionally.
f.) ALCOHOL Yes I know junior doesn’t drink, BUT some Cough Medicines and other medicines contain alcohol which acts as a stimulant to kids and prevent sleep.  Sleep is more important for the body to heal itself that a medicine.  Medicines ONLY suppress the symptoms, they do NOT cure them.  The body cures itself when given the proper emotional environment, nutrition, rest and exercise.
g.) VITAMINS the body needs vitamins to live.  The average American diet does NOT supply all the vitamins necessary for good health.  This stresses the body and hinders sleep.  Children need vitamin supplements even more than adults.
h.)  Water:  Let the child drink water.  If they have to get up in the middle of the night, let it be O.K. A thirsty child can not fall asleep easily.
i.) Don’t eat for at least 2 hours before bedtime.  This way the “business” of digestion is done and the child can sleep.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Mind

There are 2 kinds of thoughts: Automatic and intentional.  Intentional thoughts will use up excess mental energy and cause sleep.

a.) MENTAL EXERCISE 1: Count up to 10 and then from 10 to 1 while breathing deeply.
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.) MENTAL EXERCISE 2: Say the alphabet forwards and then backwards. The difficulty of saying it backwards will burn up mental energy and cause sleep as long as they kindly ask the child not to give up too easily.

If the child is very young then only do it with the first 3 letters of the alphabet backwards and forwards, then the first 4 letters backwards and forwards, then 2 5 letters etc. etc. etc. until the child falls asleep or loses interest.
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.) MENTAL EXERCISE 3:  Ask the child to think about things that they want to be, do and have now.  Listen carefully to their answers.
d.) MENTAL EXERCISE 4:  Ask the child to think about the things they want to be, do and have when they grow up.
e.)  MENTAL EXERCISE 5:  Ask the child to think about things they are looking forward to doing.
f.) MENTAL EXERCISE 6:  The parent makes up stories about how sleepy they are, and how sleepy the other members of the family and how sleepy the neighbors and how sleepy the pets are etc. etc. The child’s “me too” instinct will get them to sleep.
g.) MENTAL EXERCISE 7: Read a peaceful story to the child.  Read in a monotone voice as monotonous as possible.  Some parents make the mistake of doing a very animated acting out reading.  This is great for daytime, but not for going to sleep.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Emotion

a.) Laughter is the best way for a child to relax.  Try this unusual exercise to induce real belly laughs. Lie on the bed with head hanging upside down and look around the “upside down room” and at each other.  The kids will start to laugh deeply, which will ventilate their body and purge it of tension and let them fall asleep.
b.)  Worry often interferes with sleep.  Ask the child if there is anything he/she is worried about.  School pressure, mean kids and other things can stress a child.  Ask them and let them talk about it.  LISTEN LISTEN LISTEN.  Just listen and “get” that it’s how they see it.  Don’t agree or disagree or add anything to it. Just give them your FULL attention. Give your child the attention you wish you had as a child. Begin a new cycle. By giving your child more than what your parents gave you, is one of the most wonderful things you can do for your child, yourself and future generations. This will release a lot of tension and invite sleep.
c.) A dialogue about emotions. Parent asks "How do you feel right now?" The child answers and the parent listens. Then continue repeating the question and letting the child answer. Emotions are like running water.  There are subtle changes from moment to moment.  Repeat until the child has fallen asleep, or feels that they have gone through everything and have nothing left to say.
d.) RELEASING EMOTIONS.  Parent "Tell me some thing you are happy about."  The child speaks and the parent listens. Parent "Tell me some thing you are unhappy about?"  The child speaks and the parent listens.
  Keep repeating until the child falls asleep. Don’t give up too soon.  KEEP LISTENING AND ASKING KINDLY.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Spirit

a.) Saying prayers before going to sleep, helps the child feel connected with the higher power that is always there available to us at all times.
b.) Encourage the child to have a conversation in their mind with a “spiritual being” of their choice.  It might be a deceased relative they were close to, and angel, Jesus, God or anyone they love and admire.  This being may be either living or dead, real or imaginary.   Tell them to speak and ask questions sometimes and sometimes to listen to what is being said to them.
c.) Ask the child to try to remember the place they were before they were born.
d.) Explain to the child that they have the power to create whatever they want in their imagination.  Ask them to travel by flying through the universe and create ANYTHING they wish.